Client Testimony: The Restored Programme

Talking about The RESTORED programme and FREEDOM course in particular I would say that my healing process from the effects of prolonged domestic abuse started with Freedom. If I am to describe the abusive mindset that majority of victims of domestic abuse have as like a “disease”, the  Freedom program was the antibiotics. The structure of the course and its content challenges core beliefs and stereotypes that allow victims of domestic abuse not only to endure abuse but to  blame themselves for it. Freedom “cures” you of the wrong way of thinking and makes it crystal clear that there is no excuse for abuse.

”Freedom “cures” you of the wrong way of thinking and makes it crystal clear that there is no excuse for abuse”.  

For me personally it has been a very painful and emotional healing process that took almost 9 months. Freedom sessions at times triggered emotional flashbacks to my past abuse, panic attacks and various anxieties. Nevertheless that was the only way to “get better”. By fully engaging in the course through pain and tears, I have managed to process hurtful emotions, challenged by core beliefs due to various cultural, social and other factors and regained clear rational thinking, positive self esteem and healthy outlook on life.

More over the personal skills I gained on the way through RESTORED programme and priceless knowledge I gained through FREEDOM empowered me to be a stronger better and more resilient human being. I am able to face and stand up accordingly now not only my perpetrator  but to the legal and social care systems which unfortunately are not sympathetic to the victims of domestic abuse to say the least. As an example, I have been to court 17 times and lost 15 of those. In the two hearings  that I won, I represented myself against fully equipped and prepared legal teams. From being in Freedom and Stay Free I knew my rights and I had a renewed confidence and emotional self control in order to be able to stand up for what is right and just for me and my children.

 

”The biggest advice I can give to all those brave souls who are starting their journey with RESTORED and Freedom programme in particular is: come with an open heart and mind. Suck it all in and let it process in your heart as much as in your mind”.

The biggest advice I can give to all those brave souls who are starting their journey with RESTORED and Freedom programme in particular is: come with an open heart and mind. Suck it all in and let it process in your heart as much as in your mind. It is going to be an emotional roller-coaster, at times it will be very ugly and painful but you will be led through it by highly trained professionals and support workers who will hold your hand all the way through with a smile and a shoulder to lean on! As well as RESTORED I accessed a professional counsellor to help me to process everything. If I did it so can you!

Today, I am a confident successful young woman with a healthy outlook. I have no more anxiety or panic attacks. I run my own business and looking after my amazing children. I just started another degree. I continue to educate myself regularly, attending various courses and even started to learn another foreign language. My life is amazing and I am the happiest I have ever been. On the outside however my circumstances haven’t really changed much, I still have the perpetrator present in my life as we share the custody of our children and money is a struggle, but what has really changed is me and my abilities to handle abuse and anything coming my way!  I am more successful than I have ever been. It has been long 9 months of self development, rediscovering and really hard work but I have finally been reborn to my true authentic self.

”Today, I am a confident successful young woman with a healthy outlook. I have no more anxiety or panic attacks. I run my own business and looking after my amazing children”

My advice would be to participate in as much of the programme as you can however trivial it might seem at the time. Allow yourself to have hope and believe that you are not a victim, you are a survivor!!!

”Allow yourself to have hope and believe that you are not a victim, you are a survivor!!!”